I guess it’s not so random, but I’ve gotten a few questions lately about my motivation to lose weight.
“What was the thing? What was the spark to turn it around?”
Frankly, that’s a great question. I’ve been on this journey for so long that it’s changed over the years – but I can say that over the past few months something has definitely shifted in me. Hell, I’ve never had chocolate from my Christmas stocking last this long in my LIFE. Something definitely shifted within me.
Part of it was using my 95% awesome Digifit heart rate monitor – this coincided with that two-and-a-half week time period starting in late October where I discovered the Jillian Michaels podcast and listened to every single episode like a maniac. If you listen to her show (or see her through the edits on Biggest Loser), Jillian asks some probing questions and gets people to do some serious emotional/psychological heavy lifting. Through listening to her counsel callers, I dug deep and did a bit of my own therapy, putting together the who/what/where/why/how of my relationship with food, my own body, and my place in the world. Not easy, but not incredibly hard either. You just have to be willing to take a serious look and accept whatever you uncover. I have come to realize that if you don’t get to the root cause of the problem, you’ll never be able to treat the symptom of being overweight in a lasting and meaningful way.
This has all coincided with getting a promotion to a new department at work – a positive move where I feel more valued (though still frustrated at the essence of the cube farm) and have an hour for lunch, with access to the company gym. I can be active for 30-40 minutes, shower, and get back to work – even if I’m trading off for the the no-no of eating at my desk. A place I take generally two meals a day.
The planets aligned. After umpteen years of being on this journey, I finally felt like I had/have all the tools I needed and was willing to do the work.
There’s one more thing, though it’s a big one. And I think this is the key to having the desire to get at all of the above:
Why do you want to become fit?
Yes, start thinking about this in terms of fitness – not just “losing weight”.
But seriously – what’s your point? You have to pick something specific, it’s too general to say, “I want to be healthy” and leave it at that. Even if you’ve lost a loved one to a preventable disease, ty to think about what you want, not what you’re trying to avoid. Positive will get you further. Where is your passion? Do you want to play with your kids without becoming short of breath? Have you always dreamt of hiking the Appalachian Trail? Do you imagine yourself playing the trumpet at an open mike and being able to 1) do the intense breath work required to play the instrument well and 2) look AMAZING while doing it? Do you have that little black dress that has been hanging in the back of your closet for years? For heaven’s sake, pull it out and hang it where you can see it for motivation!
You have got to get very specific about what really inspires you to become fit. Because that is the thing that will drive you through to the next level when you’ve been at it for a few weeks and it’s starting to get “boring” or you get through the water-weight stage and hit the first faux-plateau.
So what is it for me? The desire for going on long-distance bike rides, overnights and tours (I have an extensive day-dream list). The way I want to look and feel in a purple argyle sweater. The way I want to look and feel when I get married. The active lifestyle I want to live with my yet-to-be-hatched children. The happy adventures I want to continue to share with my partner-face. Also, I want to do pull ups, go zip-lining, and try kite surfing!
What floats your boat? Post in the comments section below.